CONFIDENCE BOOSTER WORKOUT
Do you feel that your natural talents and abilities are hampered by self-doubt?
Do you find it hard to say no?
Would you like to speak with impact in your presentations?
Read on to discover a structure route to building confidence and self-esteem both at work and in social situations.
Using the Confidence Booster Program
For real confidence to build and grow, you will need to practice these ideas on a daily basis until the new confidence habits and patterns become permanent.
Take baby steps – one exercise per day – give space for the new habits and patterns to grow.
Give yourself around three months to work through the entire program. Build strong foundations of confidence – the more secure your confidence will be when it is tested.
STEP 1: PMA – POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE
Exercise: Record your thoughts
This exercise helps you to get the mental clutter out of your head and free up your thinking for more confident decision-making. Take a blank sheet of paper and write down all your thoughts for 20 minutes. Don’t censor these thoughts. Put down your darkest thoughts if they arise. Put down on paper the thoughts as they come into your head. Write down everything that you think, then throw the piece of paper away.
STEP 2: PHYSICAL CONFIDENCE
Exercise: Walk tall
Absence of confidence manifests itself in the way we walk and the way we carry ourselves physically. If you want to increase your confidence, you have to carry yourself confidently.
Stand upright – hold your posture tall. You don’t have to walk fast. Your walk should suit your physical body type. You walk could be relaxed and loose or it could be brisk and upright with military precision. Find a walk that gives you a feeling of increased confidence and purpose.
STEP 3: SAY NO
This exercise is to develop the habit of saying no with more confidence and less fear. Think back to all the things that you say yes to that you would rather say no to. For example:
In a notebook, make a note of those things that you have said yes to that you want to say no to next time. For example, if you have just got drawn into criticism or judgmental about others that you would prefer to have avoid, decide what you want to do next time this happens.
STEP 4: TOLERATIONS = PROCRASTINATIONS
Here you catch up on those annoying little things in your life that you have been putting off. When you deal with your tolerations, you develop the muscle to deal with things at the time they need dealing with, whether you like dealing with them or not. Putting things off cause energy stagnation. Whatever the situation, take charge and deal with it.
Exercise: Deal with tolerations
Make a list of those things in your life that you are tolerating from:
From your list, choose to:
STEP 5: FLOW ACTIVITIES
Today – engage in flow activities. Things that you truly enjoy doing. They are activities that leave you feeling energized and buoyant.
Exercise: Enjoy a flow activity
Choose one flow activity to engage and set aside time to do it.
STEP 6: SPEAK LIKE A WINNER NOT a Whiner
Listen to what you are saying. Choose a power word to use. A power word is a word that powers a quality that you want to build.
Redirect negative statements to positive ones. Say, “I can” “I will”.
Exercise: Focus on what you want – Use a power word
If the quality you are searching for is confidence, then use ‘confidence’ as the power word today. Say the word to yourself for example: ‘Confidence. Confidence. Confidence.” By repeating the word, you send a message to yourself that you are interested in developing this important quality and are wanting to attract more of it into your life.
STEP 7: SELF-ENCOURAGEMENT
In the morning when you wash your face and look up in the mirror – make sure that face looking at you has a big smile on it. Remind yourself of some of the qualities that you will be bringing to your workplace and life today. If you can’t think of any – go ask four of your coworkers what they see are the qualities that you bring to your job – request that they write them down anonymously on a piece of paper for you. Then ask four of your friends to do the same.
Exercise: Encourage yourself
When you are clear about the qualities – say them to yourself in the morning, mid- morning, lunch, and midafternoon. For example: “Today I will be bringing the qualities of punctuality, support of others, willingness to listen to the workplace.”
When you have finished your day’s work, remind yourself of the qualities that you brought to the workplace today. You do the same exercise when you are meeting up with your friends.
STEP 8: DEVELOP WILL POWER
Fill up your personal vitality tank for whenever you might need it.
Exercise: Push yourself to take one more step
Go the extra mile with one of your activity that you do regularly. Here are some examples:
DON’T BE PUT OFF - When someone rejects your idea, don’t accept the first no, but use that no as an opportunity to find out what that person really needs.
COMPLAIN - If you receive bad service anywhere and feel dissatisfied, don’t let it pass. Complain and let others know how things could be better.
DON’T WAIT - Be the change you want – If you see something that is not right, don’t wait for someone else to act - DO something about it yourself.
SEEK INSPIRATION - Listen to/Read about people’s stories who never gave up.
DO IT NOW - Just Do It. Complete today’s tasks today.
SET NEW TARGETS - Stretch a little more. It could be better.
START EARLY - Arrive at work thirty minutes before everyone else. Make a positive start to the day.
STEP 9: PRACTICE FORGIVENESS
Focus on forgiveness. Be able to forgive. Overcome the negative habit of attaching blame to others and yourself.
Exercise: Forgive someone
Forgive yourself when you make a mistake.
Forgive the person who turned up late for an appointment with you.
Forgive the man who shoved you aside to get on the bus first.
STEP 10: TRUST
Building trust between yourself and your instinct is an invaluable investment.
Exercise: Trust your instinct
This is a fun exercise and should be performed for about 20 minutes.
STEP 11: SMALL TALK
Today you will concentrate on increasing your confidence in making small talk.
Exercise: Start a conversion
Initiate a conversation with someone you have never spoken to before, and then see if you can keep it going for at least a minute – by responding to the person’s statements with comments and further questions of your own.
Ways to Start a Conversation:
STEP 12: BE IN THE PRESENT
Today, you slow down and try to allow yourself to become more present in each moment. All your senses are tuned in to each moment of your life as you live it.
Exercise: Focus on here and now
To assist in reducing background noise, here is a minute exercise that you can do anywhere.
Focus on what you can hear for 30 seconds.
Listen to the sounds around you.
Building confidence comes from lots of small efforts all pointing in the same direction, rather than one big effort. Decide that you will be more confident.
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